So, my girls call me Beverly, as in Beverly from The Goldbergs.  I have come to love and embrace being Beverly in their eyes.  I mean isn’t that what moms are supposed to act like…..putting their children above anyone else.  Pretending they are perfect even when they aren’t….lol.  As school gets ready to start again I am gearing up to become full Beverly.

When you have children you think oh they are perfect and in your eyes that never changes.  But what you don’t realize is that sometimes there are unexpected challenges and curve balls.  Mine came when my children hit preschool.  What  do you mean it’s not ok that my daughter only knows 13 of her ABCs, isn’t that what school is for??  So you were concerned when the first one only knew 13 but weren’t when the 2nd knew 9??  And the 3rd well I can’t even remember….lol.  Beverly has taken over now for Twanda.

What the world needs is great teachers.  Once actual school started I was blessed to have a Kindergarten teacher that was tuned in.  Tuned in enough to recognize something was up with their learning.  Yes, my girls have learning disabilities and guess what I am going to channel everything I have in to making sure they succeed!!  And they have!!!  Why do I bring this up…..we are now focusing on college for daughter #2, Grace and people for some reason think their opinion matters to me, ok family does.

Since when did it become ok to discuss what college is best for my children?  It didn’t!!  Here is what I know…..I have 3 girls who despite their learning disabilities have always succeeded in school.  The oldest was one of the top in her class & a 4.0 student in college, the middle is a successful A/B student, and the 3rd strives for a 4.0 every tri and almost always manages it.  It has never been a question that my girls will go to college, ever, if that is what they want (ok even if they didn’t…lol).   But I am not unrealistic.  My girls will need to go to smaller colleges so they will get the assistance needed to be successful, which means private school.

After scholarships, and an endowment over 1/2 of Abby’s tuition is covered, bringing the cost of her college to that of a state school without financial aid.  My daughter Grace is still trying to see what school fits her needs best but no matter where she goes there will be scholarships based on her GPA and ACT score available to her.  Anna has 1 more year after this to figure out her plan, but she is thinking about Real Estate and is wanting to go the Community College to still get her degree.  But who knows that could change tomorrow. 🙂  But for some reason recently family has decided to share their opinions on the matter.

No we are not rich and yes our kids do have to take out student loans, but we will not leave them the burden of paying them off alone.  We have co-signed the loans and will do so in the future.  We will also be assisting with paying them back, we will share the load.  But what does that matter to anyone but us?  Talking to my girls about the financial strain on us of them going to private college and for that matter talking to me about it, is not ok.  I have explained this on numerous occasions and the logic to the decision.  What matters most is that my children study in college and become what they want to….follow their dreams.  Money takes care of itself.

I haven’t decided how to handle this yet but I am putting my Beverly in check (which is something new for myself and my family)as we move through this stage when it comes to family.  I am torn because I recognize the genuine concern but only need 1 thing…support.  I am going to have to continue thinking and move from there.  I will update in the future once I figure it out or go full Beverly….lol.  After all isn’t that what mom’s are supposed to be and do???

I recognize my thoughts are obviously all over on this but that is because I am sorting through my direction, thoughts and feelings.  But there is 1 thing I know trumps everything….my love for my 3 girls!